Welcome to e-SLAA.org, an Online S.L.A.A. Group

Welcome! We are glad you are here. When anyone, anywhere reaches out for help, we want the hand of S.L.A.A. to always be there, and for that, each of us is responsible.

About e-SLAA.org

Membership in e-slaa.org is opened to anyone who thinks they may be experiencing an inability to terminate or set boundaries in a love relationship, an undesirable compulsion to have sex or masturbate, romantic obsession, ongoing avoidance of intimacy, problems with codependency or love addiction, promiscuity, obsessive fantasy, or one of the many other signs of sex and love addiction. The only requirement for membership in Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous is a desire to stop living out a pattern of sex and love addiction.

e-SLAA.org is one of many online recovery groups. To support their members' recovery from sex addiction, love addiction, anorexia, and other closely related issues, these groups meet regularly either at a specific physical location, online at a particular e-location, or via the phone using a particular numeric sequence. Any two or three sex and love addicts gathered together to mutually support one another in recovery may call themselves an S.L.A.A. group, provided that as a group they have no other affiliation.

For more information, see More About e-SLAA.org below. Also ready about our worldwide outreach effort.

This e-SLAA.org Group is NOT the S.L.A.A. Fellowship Wide Services site. You can visit that site to buy literature, submit articles to The Journal, find a local meeting, or many other features at slaafws.org.

Our e-SLAA.org Meeting Schedule

 

Great Things About e-Recovery

These are just some of the things our members enjoy about e-slaa.org, in addition to the strong recovery and uplifting meetings, of course.

e-SLAA.org Group Guidelines

The guidelines for participlation in this group are expressions of the group's commitment to the Twelve Traditions.

The membership requirements of this e-group go beyond the usual requirements of membership solely because, whether in face-to-face meetings, on phone meetings, or engaging in online meetings, the First Tradition sometimes must take precidence over the Fifth Tradition when a member's actions threaten the right of the members of the group to meet in a safe place. So that this group will always be able to support our recovery and the recovery of those to come, we must place our common welfare first.

The guidelines that our group members follow are below. Please read them carefully before joining. Failure to follow these guidelines may result in the termination of your access to this e-group.

  1. Respect the stated purpose of e-S.L.A.A., which is to provide a safe, interactive, Internet-based recovery resource.
  2. Respect the Twelve Traditions.
  3. Practice anonymity. Your full name or other identifying information shall not be passed along to the community. **
  4. Practice confidentiality. No confidential information expressed should be expressed outside this community. * **
  5. Encourage the recovery of others by sharing your experience, strength, and hope in a positive way.
  6. Respect the stated boundaries of other members.
  7. Refrain from searching for partners for sexual or romantic purposes within this community.
  8. Refrain from interrupting other people during their sharing during a chat room meeting.
  9. Refrain from criticizing or passing judgments on any people.
  10. Refrain from using language and images that are likely to be perceived as offensive, explicit, flirtatious or otherwise triggering to recovering addicts.
  11. Refrain from mentioning people by name.
  12. Refrain from mentioning locations or organizations that are likely to pose a threat to the recovery of other members.

* Confidential information includes information shared by individuals during an e-SLAA.org meeting, within an e-SLAA.org forum, or in an e-SLAA.org message. Expressing includes discussing, repeating verbally, writing about, copying, or otherwise representing the confidential information.

** Be aware that information shared in the Gratitude Blog is deliberately syndicated in the spirit of S.L.A.A.'s Fifth Tradition, meaning that it will temporarily appear outside the secure area in the interest of attracting those who might benefit from S.L.A.A. resources into the S.L.A.A. community.

Enter Through the Doorway Below

If you are willing to abide by the above guidelines for e-community behavior, you may enter by clicking on the doorway and set up your membership. IMPORTANT: Please do NOT enter your real FULL NAME when you sign up.

www.e-slaa.ning.com

There are no dues or fees, and because e-slaa.org is currently an expense-free group of S.L.A.A., we recommend you make a Seventh Tradition donation to your local intergroup and to S.L.A.A.'s Fellowship-wide Services.

Our Recovery Resources

We currently offer our members several services to support their recovery.

We expect to provide these additional services soon.

For information about many of S.L.A.A.'s worldwide initiatives, you can visit the S.L.A.A. Fellowship-wide Services site.

More About e-SLAA.org

e-SLAA.org is like any other S.L.A.A. group. Its meeting location is a virtual address. This location is not only where meetings are held for mutual support, but also where healthy conversations can ensue and healthy, recovery-oriented friendships can develop. e-SLAA.org is modeled after a large face-to-face group that provides many services to the recovery community. (We are not a recovery club; we are an S.L.A.A. group!)

e-Meetings are much like face-to-face meetings. The format is about the same, and the originators of e-SLAA.org added in audio for the preamble, the Twelve Steps, and the announcements, so if you have speakers on your commuter, you hear a voice, which helps make e-SLAA.org feel warmer than most e-meetings.

Safety and e-SLAA.org

e-SLAA.org is a safe place to share and hear the sharing of others. There are several measures of safety built in.

The e-Group7 Gratitude Blog

Giving thanks

Dear Recovery Friends-

I am thankful to have recovery in my life today. I am happy to have God as a priority and the Twelve Steps.

Both have changed my life. Thanks to everyone who has taught me about them.

Posted on 19 November 2017 | 7:20 am MST

Holiday Gratitude for Friends and Family

I use First Thing First around the holidays. The goal being to not stress out over them. What the application of First Things First solves for me is recognition that I don't have to do everything right now, all of it, without exception. This intense sense of urgency for multiple things can create much anxiety, and I want to enjoy the holidays. So I am grateful for having learned the trick.

I can remember to pick what is most important and do that first. That works during holidays and

Posted on 19 November 2017 | 7:00 am MST

Another day of gratitude

Good morning

I am nada, sex and fantasy addict and codependent. Yesterday wasn't easy on me. There was a situation where i had to interact with someone i lately resent for making actions that i feel offended by which.I tried to apply step 4 on this earlier but i found myself falling in my negative thoughts about that person once we met. So, yesterday i applied step 4,5,6,7 on that situation one more time. I made an inventory to find out that it was jealousy, pride and lack of trust that were my

Posted on 3 July 2017 | 2:10 am MDT

falling into resentments...

Hi . I am June slrfa

Not sure where to start, i ve been rotting in resentments from time to time. I takes everything from me, sanity, peace, joy and gratitude. that's not spiritual my sponsor says and of course she is right .

I am good at blaming other people about my rage anger and self pity , today ,i don't even need people to blame, i can blame God. i mean he s got me in this family of origin! I didn't ask to be born in this dysfunction!!I didn't ask to feel

Posted on 2 July 2017 | 8:46 am MDT

Pass It On !!

Hi Recovery Friends!

Someone that knew my past twelve stepped me. It wasn't my past then. It was my present, and it was more than a little dangerous.

I was involved in a community where some people have dies of this, and it could have been me. I couldn't see it clearly at the time - the risk part. We all knew we were a little crazy but saw that as a good thing. I reveled in it.

When i started to hear, at meetings of this group in particular, that there was a

Posted on 2 July 2017 | 6:40 am MDT

Good days

I am Picard, addict. I had the first really good days in a row. That's awesome.

Posted on 21 May 2017 | 12:26 am MDT

Single parent in recovery

Hi everyone, June slrfa

I came to this group approximately 1year and 10 mnths. i had some ideas for what is recovery and it was so wrong! I wanted to improve my relationship with different gender ,so I have a man, and feel okay with myself, because of that :) and also that he took care of my children...and me.. i was not able to look after myself spiritually physically emotionally: the worse of all 3 was spiritual death.

Relationship with man ,was the

Posted on 9 April 2017 | 8:32 am MDT

New start

My name is Missy.

I have only dipped my toe into SLAA literature. I have never been to a meeting. Not sure I could. Or want to. However, I accept that I am a sex and love addict.

I am also a gambling addict. One often triggers the other. If I don't get what my brain feels is an emotional fix from love or sex then I find a machine. I have come to realize that these are unhealthy coping mechanisms.

I'm married. Our sex and emotional life is lacking. This started four or five years ago. The

Posted on 29 March 2017 | 9:00 am MDT

Update from addictio_expelliarmus: The Recovery from Pornography

Hello e-SLAA,

Currently at this time, I have relapsed only three times but did not feel so much of a drastic after-effect like I normally would on a consistent porn binge. The reasons for this is easily explainable. I finally have established myself a routine, in which I would determine how I would spend my time.

I. I cut off the Internet entirely at home, in which I can no longer get online due to loss of trust in myself, lack of self-respect for myself, and

Posted on 21 January 2017 | 9:38 am MST

2017 Gratitude

Dear Recovery Friends,

It has been too long since I write a Gratitude Blog entry.

There is so much to be grateful for. Ten years ago, I was in middle school and my sex and love addiction was in full force. My head was in a cloud of romantic fantasies nearly every waking hour. I was entrenched in the after hours culture and although I was doing less ecstasy and other drugs than others in that crowd, I was having much more anonymous and dangerous sex than most.

The amazing

Posted on 15 January 2017 | 8:21 am MST

Notes about the Porn Weaknesses

In order to expel the addiction out of my body, I have come to the following conclusions which regards the recurring problem of visiting tube sites and satisfying my urges.

  1. I can no more stay after 12 AM. The risks of viewing tube sites are greater at the specified time. The more time goes on, the more at risk I am for completing the vicious addiction cycle.
  2. I can no longer eat processed foods or sugary drinks (such as Coca Cola, Dr. Pepper, or any other soft

Posted on 14 October 2016 | 10:45 pm MDT

Personal Power: Breaking the Chains of Weaknesses

Currently, I seek my own personal power: self-discipline, self-control, and willpower. These three must become extraordinary. To have these as extraordinary, I may break the cords that bind me...

My personal power seeks some very important things:

Posted on 1 October 2016 | 11:22 pm MDT

Recommiting to Sobeirety

Hud, mb addict

I can go back and look at my posts here and see how I have been trying to run away from my addiction and I have never really done anything about it and yesterday in my daily recovery readings I got a very interesting thought.

"We may think that we have done enough by writing

Posted on 18 September 2016 | 7:00 am MDT

MB addiction

Hud, masturbation addict.

Today I went out for some physical exercise. I need to continue the pace. also I need to make sure I do atleast half of it at home because if idn when I go out, I have a tendancy to get peeved off at something and drop the program. so irrespective of what happens outside I need to workout at home.

Mastubation addiction. the name sounds funny, yet that is my reality. how do I go aobut even acknowledging it when its such a shameful thing to talk about. I

Posted on 4 September 2016 | 3:25 pm MDT

Sobriety

I am grateful to have been sober now for 43 days. I am grateful for this group and others that keep me connected and tuned in to resources that will keep me on the path of sobriety. Yesterday was a challenging day for me. I have a trip coming up, as the anxiety in the lead up to this increases I find myself looking for ways to act out, or at least engage in behavior that might lead to acting out. Please God, help me to be strong just for today.

Posted on 21 July 2016 | 5:30 am MDT

I try to put some positive output

These 9 myths I am still facing witdrawal.first I put cigarets 1.5 years , relationships 9 Mnths, dating, fantasy , romance , ~ 8 Mnths . Masturbation 1 week. Food 4 Mnths. Oh dear me, it is like pealing An onion !

Alchohol too.

I attend various groups online for my addiction. Why waste precious time?oh forgot smth social avoidance.

bed at the weekends / home stay it's getting to a habit .

..

Some events happened on Friday and I am still recovering from trauma or shock . I have injunction

Posted on 6 March 2016 | 1:29 am MST

What Sanity Feels Like

Once upon a time, I used to see someone attractive and stop what I was doing to think about how I could get to have sex with them like animals in heat. Now I notice their aura and consider how I can be of service.

I used to want a person to be mine and no others and be loved by them and have everything be alright because of them, even though this person and I had never spoken. Now I know it is better to love than to be loved. Now I do not have fantasy romances ... entire worlds

Posted on 21 February 2016 | 6:53 am MST

Gratitude Blog

Hi everyone,

Just wanted to share my gratitude for this recovery program. I have been working the SLAA 12-Step process for about a month now and am excited about the prospects of recovering from this dis-ease. Good luck on your journey to recovery!

Keoki

p.s. Please help by sharing your strengths and hopes with the rest of the community!

Posted on 5 January 2016 | 11:52 am MST

Powerless Seeking Power

Hi Everyone,

I came into recovery in my late teens, starting here with this group. I'm between terms in college today. My preconceptions about sexuality, fantasy, and romantic obsession and the kind of people that would join SLAA kept me from trying recovery sooner. I went to my first CoDA meeting when I was fifteen and heard about SLAA a few months into that. I thought there would be old people that like to flash or nyphomaniac rich women or professors that traded higher grades for

Posted on 27 December 2015 | 11:38 am MST

Staying in gratitude!

Aloha and a good morning,

Was blessed with a sponsor today! We will be working the 12 Step recovery process a day at a time. So grateful to finally have direction. Oftentimes I will look for the easier path and keep parts of my self for myself. Half measures will avail me nothing. Recovery depends on my being completely honest in all that I do. Gratitude!

Keoki

Posted on 27 December 2015 | 8:15 am MST

Merry Christmas and Sober New Year

Hi All,

I am sex and love addict, when I first came to this board I was saying ,what I learned for 6mnth being involved in Love addicts Anonymous.

I read the book of P.C out of shadows, and I was so relieved that ,,after all ,, I wasn't sex addict. This name was something morally degrading for me, especially being woman, it was being lowest of the lowest.

Coming to this board I was told that by what I have shared I AM Sex addict. Somehow I completely blocked of

Posted on 25 December 2015 | 5:01 pm MST

Grateful to be on the path to recovery

Aloha,

It is 9:30 a.m. mountain time and I am grateful. I continue to read our manual and find that I am truly grateful to be on this path. I have so many past secrets/involvements that I need to unburden myself from and with this anonymous forum, I will be able to do so as I work/complete my 12 Step process. If it wasn't for our program of recovery, I would be continuing to create havoc and broken dreams/hearts along the way. I am willing to go the distance and clean the wreckage of

Posted on 22 December 2015 | 9:49 am MST

Slowly Changing from Sex and Fantasy Crazed

I was asked to post here, even though I'm not sure how grateful I am. Don't get me wrong ... I've been coming to meetings because I needed to and I think I'm slowly changing from a sex and fantasy crazed girl to someone who has a good chance at not getting arrested, or infected, or committed for insanity. In that way, I have this group to thank. It is scary, but it is necessary, and so they tell me to listen to the words of the Serentity Prayer about courage as much as the part about

Posted on 13 December 2015 | 9:30 am MST

In gratitude mode...

Aloha and good mornin',

Mahalo ke Akua for blessing me with the gift of recovery. I am a sex and love addict. I am seeking a sponsor who would be willing to give me direction so that I can continue my path of recovery from myself. It seems that i am not very fond of who/what I am...but that is okay...just as long as I have a way out of this dis-ease that I am walking with. Have a blessed day all.

Keoki

Posted on 13 December 2015 | 6:11 am MST

Gratitude abounds!

Aloha all,

My significant other and I drove back to where we live and had a beautiful time in the mountains driving through the snow-capped hills and trees. It was magical to say the least. It allows me to get out of self for a change. I know that I have work to do but I am willing to go to any length to recover. Blessings!

Posted on 12 December 2015 | 6:15 pm MST

Gratitude

Aloha, my name is Keoki and I am original from Hawai'i. I am in gratitude for finding this e-meeting site for Sex and Love Addicts. I have been clean/sober for thirty-two years but have never considered working on my sex and love addictions. I am in a relationship which has had it's difficulties and I have been caught rekindling old romances from my past. I am quite new to this recovery process but believe that what I put into my recovery is what I get out of it. I am starting my first step

Posted on 6 December 2015 | 9:16 pm MST

Gratefull

i am grateful, to be able to work recovery and share my experience here.

It is sure that, i worked the steps, i call it homework! and i am always serious about education. This time is education about myself. That was the hardest thing i ever done. But also most rewording.

I feel so happy to finally work on Step6!

my plan for next week is: to do some reading in slaa book and AA ,on step 6.

Also, get ready to another withdrawal. I am ready for

Posted on 21 November 2015 | 6:30 pm MST

Acceptance of Myself and Others - Emotional Availability

Hi. I'm Akane A. from Japan. I'm a sex, relationship, and fantacy addict and have been attending SLAA meetings for over five years now. By the grace of my Higher Power, I've been sober and free from bottom line addictive patterns for over four.

I have issues, but mostly because I'm free to follow my calling. In the pursuit of these new, sober goals, I face challenges (along with my team) and they have planned resolutions. I also have issues with self-esteem and doubt and with sexual

Posted on 8 November 2015 | 7:51 am MST

Orginaly I came from Baltic countries , today I am living in United Kingdom

I am glad my life journey brought me to this forum, SLAA, i had many unsuccessful relationships. i wasn't interested in anybody who will be nice and good to me. I needed drama, and pain. I was attracted to abusive people, and i always was ending relationship because i was bored of them. i have never experienced real intimacy, and if someone wanted that i simply choose to brake up. i just simply couldn't trust anyone, man, friends, family. no one.

here i am today working on my

Posted on 8 November 2015 | 7:30 am MST

just discovering all the different aspects of sex and love addiction

I am i not really sure whereabouts to share on this site, it is all a bit confusing to me, all I know is I need to open up after many years in denial about my need for help. It is just the beginning of my second week in slaa and I feel so grateful to find there's an answer to my difficulties. I found out this week, from reading slaa literature, that I am a love addict, I am socially anorexic, co dependent, sexually anorexic, and to add to the mix, my partner is sexually anorexic with me and

Posted on 3 November 2015 | 11:22 am MST

Selected Forum Discussion from e-Group7

R Tribe

I anyone is interested in downloading the recovery tribe app, you can add me to your tribe, I'd love to have a bigger support network. This would help fill the space in between meetings. My username is j0nny75. The 0 is a zero.

Posted on 21 August 2016 | 11:31 am MDT

Vancouver

I'm going to Vancouver this weekend to visit my family. I hope I can stay in recovery even with the stress of balancing loyalties between my wife and my overbearing mother. I'll be on the plane for the meeting this Sunday, so won't be able to join in. I'd love to chat with someone in between meetings. I don't have a sponsor, so wouldn't mind finding someone to help me to stay focused on recovery.

Posted on 22 July 2016 | 5:45 am MDT

A blog post a day for 90 days of sobriety

Hi

I stumbled on this site today - last week I decided to create a simple blog and post a post every day for 90 days. 90 Days is something I've never had. I'm just over a week in now.

I thought I could post it here - not necessarily because I want lots of people to read it but knowing it's out there for people to see may help me stay sober.

...

If

Posted on 22 June 2016 | 8:17 pm MDT

New here: What is sexual anorexia?

Hello,

I attend the online SLAA meetings sometimes and wonder what the difference between sexual anorexia and celibacy is? I thought maybe being celibate for a year could help me heal, but then I heard about sexual anorexia. All I know is I don't want to do anything I would feel bad about such as keep going back to a man I am not in love with just because I don't want to be alone.

Julie

Posted on 15 June 2016 | 5:14 pm MDT

Facilitation for Sunday

We don't yet have a Facilitator's whiteboard for signup, but we can do this with a Forum for now.

Sundays in May 2016 will be facilitated by Green.

Sundays in June 2016 will be facilitated by Yana.

Sundays in July 2016 will be facilitated by Poochis.

Posted on 24 April 2016 | 2:21 pm MDT

The first day I realize wow is it late in life

I began to have problems with

Sex and Love addiction Before age

Of 10 years. It is real. I am in

A world of trouble by myself.

Can I who once valued chastitity

And still do. Can I forgive myself?

Can I be really forgiven? I need

To ask for real love and a real

spiritual God. I felt him he was

Good to me he is real. Praise to God.

Thanks be to Goodness. I

Surrender. If your experienced

I need a sponsor. I am new.

I believe and I am turning my will

And my life over to the care of God

As I

Posted on 14 March 2016 | 7:42 pm MDT

Finding a Sponsor

Hello, G4R here, I am an SLA

In my area SLAA is very few and far between often conflicting with my work schedule. I work in a drug treatment center and many of my coworkers are in recovery from substances and often attend AA and NA meetings. I gained an AA sponsor because my life was falling apart because of my codependency, fear of being alone and addiction to love. My AA sponsor suggested I join the forums of SLAA and or CODA. I am beginning to realize the ONLY way I can

Posted on 16 February 2016 | 9:37 am MST

Guidelines for Experience Entries

Dear Siblings in Recovery,

We want to provide a form for people to share their recovery experience. Please do not start a separate topic every time you make a blog entry. Entires that have a common thread should go under ONE DISCUSSION topic. Also, if you wish to make daily entries, please edit the previous post and add a new paragraph so that your entries do not dominate the site. Live and let live.

Sincerely,

IAm

Posted on 27 December 2015 | 1:12 pm MST

Eastern Hemisphere Notices

Subject: e-Group Meeting Starts in One Half Hour

HTML for the Body:

<p>Hi Recovery Friends!</p>

<p>In just thirty minutes, the Eastern Hemisphere meeting time slot have its usual Sunday meeting. The meeting times are below.&nbsp;&nbsp;Since you're already an e-group member, all you need to do to join the recovery is to sign into the <a href="http://e-group7.net/chat">meeting room</a> at the correct meeting start time based on your time

Posted on 27 December 2015 | 8:49 am MST

Withdrawal

Hi, I am new to this forum and SLAA in general. I just returned from a 12 day treatment center for love addiction. When I went I was in complete withdrawal, my life was completely unmanageable, I wasn't able to function. I was better when I was there. Now I'm home and the withdrawal has started again. My qualifier left me and wants nothing to do with me. After 15 years of a love addiction/love avoidant dance. I have been scrambling to get him to talk to me through text and he wants nothing to

Posted on 20 December 2015 | 8:18 am MST

Non-Endorsement Statement

Although a particular hosting service provides the community features of e-slaa.org, the e-SLAA.org Group does not endorse any service provider any more than a face-to-face group endorses the church, business, or association from which it may rent space.